Be able to cite three good qualities of every relative or acquaintance that you dislike. ~Marilyn vos Savant
I’m about to make several people nervous.
I spend time with people I don’t like. I also spend time with people I do like, so now you’ll (hopefully) never know which you are.
Why would I spend time with people who annoy me, are rude and ugly, or cling to me like static electricity? Because I can always find something to like about others if I spend time with them.
When I was little I was told, “You don’t have to like everyone, but you do have to love them.”
The only thing is, I can’t seem to separate the two.
No matter how much I love you, if I don’t like you, I won’t care that your spouse is deployed and you need a sitter.
If I don’t like you, I won’t offer you a ride to the store even while professing to love you.
If I “love” you, but I don’t like you, I will take too much joy in your current predicament.
John tells us that we can’t even see this sort of hatred. We’ll fall in a hole and never find our way out.
9 Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother or sister is still in the darkness. 10 Anyone who loves their brother and sister lives in the light, and there is nothing in them to make them stumble. 11 But anyone who hates a brother or sister is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness. They do not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded them. 1 John 2:9-11 NIV
So spend some time with people you don’t like. God loves them and you will, too.