My idea of sexy is that less is more. The less you reveal the more people can wonder. ~Emma Watson
Earlier this year Emma Watson, of Harry Potter fame, was under fire for a photo in Vanity Fair. She was dressed in a sheer shirt with a crocheted shawl that draped suggestively, hiding enough of her breasts to make the copy permissible on most grocer’s shelves.
The arguments arose because Watson is often a voice for the feminist movement. Some leaders in the movement tweeted and shouted that showing your breasts silences your voice. Others returned the outrage with the argument that you can be both sexy and smart.
Being mostly uninterested in popular culture, I only noticed the kerfuffle last week. Since the photo didn’t startle me, I’m not sure why the article irritated me so much. I don’t really have a dog in this fight.
Except that I do.
I mentor young girls. I expect in a few years or so to have a couple of daughters-in-law. I have two nieces who are entering that stage of life when what they look like will speak louder than anything else.
And I believe both sides are right.
You can be smart and sexy. You also lose your voice when you allow sexy to speak.
The very idea of sexy is that you want to attract someone in an enticing manner. You want to be noticed in an exciting way.
Plain and simple, sexy is for the one you wish to have sex with.
Attractive, on the other hand, allows you to retain your voice. You can be noticed, will be noticed. But the first thought someone has of you is I’d like to get to know her better.
You have something to offer that lasts longer than a rumpus in the sack.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t send signals to someone that you are interested sexually. But don’t send them to the whole world.
And that’s all I have to say about that.